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“Ma’am, why are you crying?”
Someone asked in a cordial tone, and when my mother looked up, she saw a figure of a man in a doctor's coat bent over her with his face adorned with glasses. It was 1978, I was 3 years old then and I was waiting for my mother, lying in bed in the children's ward in the hospital in our hometown of Konin. And my Mom had just found out that the femur of my left leg was attacked by a malignant tumor and to stop the disease, the leg had to be amputated. Doctor Piotr Janaszek, a specialist in orthopedics and rehabilitation, was interested why Mom was sitting alone in the hospital corridor, bursting in tears.
“Write to Poznan, to prof. Wiktor Dega"
"He's an outstanding orthopedic surgeon." Please ask him for help. And the right words will be dictated by your heart - Doctor Janaszek suggested to my mother and gave her the address of the clinic in Poznan, where prof. Dega worked. Mom had written and sent a letter dictated by love and fear, and the Professor replied within a week, inviting us for a consultation. - There will be no amputation. We'll remove the cancer from the bones. We're going to save this leg. But I warn you: it won't be easy, said the Professor, after he had seen me and all the results of my examinations.
It really wasn't easy.
After a long operation, I was still undergoing chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Intensive, hard rehabilitation also began, so that I could physically develop like my peers. This lasted for several years, also during martial law in Poland (1981-1983). When Mom wanted to visit me in the hospital, she had to apply for a special pass, which gave her the right to leave Konin and enter Poznan. So I was mostly alone in the hospital. Not only because of the difficulties in traveling. At home, my parents also had to perform their jobs and take care of my three siblings.
“There is my student in Konin. Please stick with him."
This was recommended by Prof. Dega when he discharged me home after the treatment. In this way, I found myself under the constant care of Doctor Janaszek, whom we simply called “Doctor Piotr”. And Doctor Piotr's rehabilitation ward did not resemble a hospital at all. We didn't wear pajamas all day at Doctor Piotr's, but tracksuits. At Doctor Piotr’s, we filled the time between hard exercises with games and activities in various interest clubs. There was no silence at Doctor Piotr's, only children's chatter interspersed with jam sessions played on African drums performed by the Doctor himself.
The holidays were the highlight of the year.
Because during the holidays, Doctor Piotr organized joint scouting camps for disabled and healthy children in Mielnica. From the first ones, to which I went as a 7-year-old, I have only small flashes of memories. However, I remember perfectly well the ones I went to as a 10-11-year-old girl scout. To this day, I can hear the melody "Wake-up wake up - give water to the horses!", which Doctor Piotr played on the trumpet at 7.00 a.m. in the morning to wake up the whole camp. And then everyone had to get up, regardless of condition and disability. The principle was simple: if you are fitter than the rest, help the less fit ones. To this day, I remember the camps in Mielnica with their bonfires, where Doctor Piotr played the guitar, kayaking trips, splashing in the lake and first crushes. Holidays in Mielnica also taught me empathy, understanding, and selflessness in helping others. And it stayed with me to this day, however my…
…life outside of rehab followed the usual path.The cancer has retreated and so far has not attacked me again. Thanks to rehabilitation, I was able to move on my own. I graduated from primary school and then vocational school with a commercial profile. And I probably would have studied further or gone to work, but I met my husband, gave birth to two sons within a few years and stayed at home. I took care of my family and waited calmly for the time when I would take care of myself again. And when that time had come...
First, I became a volunteer.
When my boys got older and they were away from home more and more, I decided that I could get involved in something new. The fact that I will be a volunteer at the Doctor Piotr Janaszek’s Foundation PAY IT FORWARD was completely natural for me. By helping the Foundation in its daily work, I had the feeling that I was giving back at least some of the goodness that I received from Doctor Piotr. Over time, it turned out that I give so much of these good things and I do it so well (I completed a disabled person's assistant course) that I was awarded the honorable title of Volunteer of the Year 2020 of the city of Konin. And then I took two steps back in time to…
… build my future.First of all: I enrolled in a supplementary high school and I, a woman in my 40s, was studying with my sons in order to take my final exams in near future. Secondly: I went... to summer camps for disabled children organized by the Doctor Piotr’s Foundation. This time as a volunteer, guardian of "Little Explorers" - because that's what the camps and their participants are called. And I went there to check in practice whether I, a former colonist, was suitable for a colony tutor. Because I, as a former disabled child, had such a plan for the rest of my life, to help other disabled children. Does it work for me? Probably yes, since my sons look with envy at the joy I give to"Little Explorers" and complain that I am more firm with them. They also wonder what it will look like when I get my driving license and will be commuting to Osada Janaszkowo by car, every day. But there are so many "Little Explorers" who need help to become Great.
The text was written and published on June 22, 2021.
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